Many-a-time people have this attitude of constant self-comparison. Self-comparison can be
dangerous if it turns into negative emotions. It can also be the root cause of self-destruction. It’s
a big roadblock towards achieving success. To evaluate yourself with others is circuitously
questioning your individual self-worth.
Things like I am not so pretty like others, or I am not intelligent like my friends, I will never be
able to afford anything in life, etc. can make you feel dejected and your confidence level can go
down to no extent. Make sure you respect yourself and think high about you. Every individual is different and no comparison can be made between two people. You need to have the maturity
to understand that you are superior and so are your ideas. Once you start thinking in a positive
manner, confidence will reflect in your life.
You must have heard that the more you tell yourself something, the more you start having faith
in it. It can be absolutely anything: positive or negative thoughts. It depends on you, as to how
you train your mind. The key is to stay away from negativity and stop comparing yourself with
others. Once you achieve doing this you will be brimming with confidence inside you.
There are loads of ways to look at things optimistically. Judging yourself with others around
you is undoubtedly not so appreciated. You will merely thrive in setting yourself up for a big fall
into a pit of stumpy self-esteem. Low self-esteem will simply cloud your individual conviction in
yourself. It will splinter the idea of exclusivity into tiny little pieces.
Are you constantly comparing yourself with others at your work place? Sometimes such kind of
comparisons may lead to damaging your own self-esteem. The problem mainly arrives when
your comparisons are colored with your meanings and perceptions. As a result you start feeling
contempt towards everyone around you. This can affect your beliefs and behavior. The next
point is to analyze if you are comparing with the correct person. Think about this: what is the
use if you actually evaluate yourself with the big shots of your company? It’s logical if you strike
a comparison with someone among your peers and not with irrelevant set of people
Most working people are affected when it’s time for appraisals. A lot of unexpected turns of
events happen during performance reviews and annual appraisals. If someone you had not
anticipated gets an increased pay hike than you, automatically the strong feeling of comparison
and disgust for him/her erupts inside you. This naturally lowers your self-esteem and you lose
your confidence and interest to work like before.
The bottom line is that comparisons are just groovy as long as there is an element of
competition among your peers is present. But if it crosses the prescribed limits things can turn
really chaotic for you. Understand the pros and cons of self-comparison. Take the correct choice
of distinguishing between things. Self-comparison with others can really damage you. Be
positive in your thoughts and actions and show your best at work and put an end to your
approach of comparing yourself.

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